Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Bathroom half empty or half full? Downstairs study/bathroom

The layout of our house is very similar to our Bellevue neighbors.  Except our house has a fabulous bonus room:  an addition off the back of the dining room.  This is our pass through to the backyard deck and it has traditionally functioned as a study for us (although one day we hope to make it into a playroom for some kiddos).   In addition, this room had a coat closet (in the southeast corner of the room) and our main floor half bath (in the northeast corner).

Half baths are great for function, but this one left a lot to be desired; it was dark, smelled a little funky, had a wobbly toilet and just wasn't very welcoming to guests (or us, for that matter).   When we started planning our bathroom renovations, we knew we wanted to put some money into updating this half bath.  New floors, new vanity, a fresh coat of paint.  Then we decided, why not just upgrade it to a full bath while we're at it?   So that's exactly what we did.  We moved some walls, added a shower and moved the coat closet from the alternate corner of the room to squeeze in between the new full bath and the back wall, thereby flushing off that wall.

The reno also gave us a chance to refresh the back room, and paint over the hunter green paint with a fresh coat of a cool grey.  Here are some before and after shots:
Back room BEFORE,
looking from dining room through back window. 

Back room, looking from back window into dining room.
The coat closet is just beyond the desk and the 1/2 bath behind
that bookshelf. 

Half bath BEFORE (gag). 

AFTER:  sink and toilet in same position. 

Porcelain "Carrera" 9x14 wall tiles (for shower and taken all the way around).
18" x 18" light grey floor tiles, with a heated floor pad beneath. 
We made some very intentional design choices in this bathroom: 

1. Light colors: cool greys and whites, to help it feel bigger, cleaner and more "spa-like".  Couples massage, anyone?  We started with the "Carerra" look-alike porcelain tile from Home Depot, which we got for only $2.20/sq ft.  Our splurge was the slate hex tile for the shower floor and the shower inset.  This we found at The Tile Shop for around $13/sq ft.  We only needed about 15 square feet for those spaces, so it seemed like a decent place to splurge.   The wall color is "Gravity" by Valspar.  The floor is 18"x18" light grey ceramic, which we found for a STEAL at $1.90/sq ft at a local discount flooring outlet.  

2. We decided to take the shower wall tile all the way around the room (at least to chair-rail height) to help make the space more cohesive.  What we didn't want was a small room to feel even smaller because the shower and non-shower spaces felt separate.  (Which is also why we chose a simple white waffle shower curtain.)  We also hear it's nice to have easy-to-wipe tile on areas where dirty little kid hands tend to touch. 

3. Since there was no source of natural light (further contributing to the dark, cramped feel) we installed a sky-light (a Sola-tube, actually) in the ceiling.  I forgot to photograph it, but it does such a great job of bringing some natural light into the space.  On a sunny day you don't even need to flip a light switch; your business is perfectly illuminated by the skylight :) 

4. Speaking of making the room feel bigger, this was the main reason for such a big inset shelf.  Since it sets that shower wall back another couple of inches in the area where it counts (shoulder and arm room), we wanted to make it pretty big.  We intended to put a glass shelf somewhere for extra product storage, but decided against it since we didn't need the extra shelf space. 

5. Finally, another small splurge: we added a heated floor!   (That small panel next to the light switches is the control panel.) Because there is no radiator in this back room (yes, we still use our trusty rads for cold weather heating), it tends to get pretty chilly in the winter, especially when your bare tootsies are on a tile floor.  We haven't had an occasion to turn the heated floor on yet, but we'll update you on how it functions once we do.    

New shower!  Slate hex tile used on the shower floor and in the inset shelf. 

Gotta love your Dr. Bronner's Magic Soap. 

Vanity and toilet both from Home Depot.  




View from back door.  Coat closet on left, bathroom door on right. 


Love the function of these shelves added to the
wall between the bath and closet doors.  



View from the bathroom door, of the backdoor. 










Sunday, September 1, 2013

Goodbye, baby girl



"And who's to say which is more incredible—a man who raises the dead … or a God who weeps?" -Ken Gire




Six weeks ago our plans for this weekend centered on a gender-reveal/Labor Day BBQ in our backyard.  A celebration with friends.   We would be 19 weeks pregnant. 

Instead, today we said goodbye to our baby girl.  Five weeks ago at a routine ultrasound we learned that our baby had no heartbeat.   Given her measurements, she likely passed two weeks prior, inexplicably.   We were devastated.  Heartbroken. Undone.

The grief has been intense and bewildering.   Unlike anything I’ve ever experienced.  This little life, so full of promise and innocence and hope…just snatched away.  Leaving everything feeling so empty.  So dark.  And today, that is really all the words I have to describe it.  I hope one day I’m better equipped to share that experience.  Because, as I’ve learned, miscarriage is far more common than we know.  We were so far along that we had no choice but to share the experience with our friends and family.  And we have been so grateful for their love and support. But I fear many women (& their partners) are far more alone in their grief. 

This morning Jake and I decided to have a small service together at Forest Park.  We chose a quiet, green clearing, surrounded by trees.  We read Psalm 139, prayed together, cried together and released a single purple balloon into the sunny sky.  Our prayer was that it would honor & celebrate our daughter’s short life and that it would glorify her Creator, Whom we believe is holding her now.  He is a good Father. 


Sweet Grace,

Despite having never held you in our arms, you had such a hold on our hearts.  You, my dear, are so loved.  We prayed for you; we planned for you; and we thank God, even now, for each day we had with you.  You were eagerly awaited and already loved by so many.   We miss you every day. 

But through our tears, sweet Grace, we give thanks.  Thanks that you are held in strong and worthy arms, now.  That Heaven is all you’ll ever know.  Thanks that we can rest in the promise that one day every tear will be wiped away and all things—suffering, death, brokenness—will be made right.   Thanks that your very name will remind us of the boundless provision and sweet redemption of God.

Today, baby girl, we entrust you to the Lord, who knows you and loves you far more than we ever could.  And this, our prayer for you:


“For you formed [her] inward parts;
you knitted [her] together in [her] mother’s womb.
I praise you Lord for [she] is fearfully and wonderfully made. 
Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. 
[Her] frame was not hidden from you,
when [she] was being made in secret,
intricately woven in the depths of the earth.
Your eyes saw [her] unformed substance;
In your book were written, every one of them,
the days that were formed for [her],
when as yet there were none.”  Psalm 139: 13-16


Fly to the Father, baby girl.  
We will see you soon.